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Disclaimer: I am not above making a grammatical or spelling error from time to time. I'll know it's 'your' and but I'll type 'you're' or 'throw' and type 'through'. You know, things like that. When I catch it, it's usually just after I've hit the send key, and I scramble immediately to write a follow-up, distancing myself from the error with much fervor. If I don't catch the mistake until it's far too late, I cringe inwardly, feel enormously embarrassed, and hope the reader just doesn't notice it. Because when you're audacious enough to out yourself as a grammar snob, you'd better have the goods to back it up, no?!
Now that I've gotten that out of the way, on to my punctuation pet peeve: the abuse of the apostrophe. People, who don't know from plurals to possessives, and worse, have these errors printed on letters, business signs, and artwork.
It's been a Shmina family joke for so many year's* those possessives that aren't. At this point in my life, my eyes immediately seem to spot the apostrophe that does not belong before I can even read the sentence. Seriously, it's like an innate skill.
Or a burden.
Because over the years when letters from school have come home with the inappropriate possessive apostrophe, I've thought, "should I tell them it's wrong?" It really is not about me feeling superior to the writer; it's about quietly telling them so they can avoid making the same mistake again and again. If I could tell the writer in a kind way, it wouldn't be as though I was hurting their feelings.
Or would it?
When I asked another parent who'd also gotten the mailings if she thought I should point it out (quietly! i would never want to intentionally embarrass anyone!) she didn't think it was a good idea. Nor did the other member of my "trusted council" (a teacher, in fact), so...I exhaled and let it go. And watched those notes come home, year after year with apostrophe's* all over the page where none were warranted.
And then there was the tee shirt that was printed...making what should have been simply a plural (a group), a singular possessive. It was in smaller print, but darned if my eye didn't hone right in on that apostrophe like a heat-seeking missile.
Which brings me to my current dilemma: an acquaintance has been working on a project, her dream project, for about a year. She'd been telling me about it every time I'd see her, which was about every five weeks. Recently, she left her existing career to pursue the dream full time. The other day I saw a mutual acquaintance who told me that she'd completed her first project and had it accepted for sale by one of my favorite shops in Jacksonville Beach!
Awesome! I was (and am) so excited for her. I'm sure you can guess the rest of the story by now. I visited the shop on Saturday morning specifically to see her item and the shop owner was just placing it out, front and center, on the sidewalk! I walked up to it, camera in hand...and there it was. That darned apostrophe, hand-painted onto the object as part of several sentences of lovely sentiments...but making the word in question a singular possessive instead of simply the plural she intended.
No, I didn't point it out to the shop owner; but I kept thinking, "Oh no, oh no. Because of that apostrophe, I could never buy the item." I was still thinking about it when I went to The BookMark in Atlantic Beach, and spotted the "I Judge You When You Use Poor Grammar" book next to the cash register.
So I asked the owner: would you tell her about the apostrophe, so she didn't continue to make the same mistake on her future products, which are all hand-painted? She and another woman, a customer in the shop, both agreed: No one likes a wise-ass, and telling her about the apostrophe would, in fact, be a wise-ass thing to do.
Really?
The customer proffered this thought: Would I be telling her to serve my own needs? As an older woman, she's been on the receiving end of younger people who try to assist her when she is perfectly capable of doing it herself. Once, when she thanked a would-be helper and declined her offer, the woman was offended, stating that it had been her goal to do "acts of kindness for others" and she now felt rebuffed. So, this woman advised me, too, to basically keep my mouth shut and let my acquaintance carry on with her work without the "benefit" of my "advice".
I get it; I really do. Still, I don't feel as though I'd be "doing it for me." I really would like to tell her simply because she is hand-painting all this on, and one of the words is simply not right.
I would want to know, if the information was given to me in a sensitive and loving way. I really don't think this is about me wanting to show her that "I know better."
Even though I did say I was a grammar snob who laughs about apostrophes.
Sigh.
So, I'm asking you for your thoughts. Please feel free to tell me truthfully what you think. Stay mum? I can do that. But would you want to know? See, I worry that it might cost her some sales, too. I personally wouldn't knowingly buy something that had a spelling or punctuation error on it, and her product really is very nice.
This is obviously a common mistake that many people make. Heck, I might even make it, too, one of these day's.
Thought's? Comment's?
Thank's.
*This is what I'm talking about! This is the error I see practically every day!